These Are Your Worst Enemies

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I had a terrible night, a few months ago. I learnt something important. Something that, if I knew earlier, I could have been saved a world of pain and indignity.

We strolled by Hussain Sagar Lake and ate warm, moist, delectable Kebabs on park benches and sat on the edge of the lake. The moon was out. The water rolled past as if paying us no heed. The largest Tricolour in India fluttered and waved in the distant spotlight. In the quiet night, I convinced myself of a lesson. I would forget it. I would forget what it meant to fight or win for a long time. But again, it takes time to learn serenity.

We've all heard the saying, 'Friends make the worst enemies,' or in a different form, 'With friends like these, who needs enemies?'

Sometimes, this does seem to be true. But it is true only because you let it become true. Your friends will no longer become enemies if you walk the straight path, listen to the better angels of your nature, and rein in your instincts.

It takes time and mistakes be critical of yourself. Arrogance, Ego, Hubris: It takes time to recognise that these, and not friends, make the worst enemies.

Friends are not your worst enemies because you know that you have greater enemies within yourself.

Battle them off. Cut off their supplies. Do not let them influence you. Do not let your instincts overtake your judgement.

Fight the immediate instinct.

Unless you learn to do that, you will be forever beholden to others and to their whims, which is the only thing worse than being beholden to your own.

Think of yourself as dead. You have lived your life. Now take what’s left and live it properly.

-Marcus Aurelius